Are you an introvert? You’re the master artist

Before we begin, what are introverts? Introverts are people that recharge when they are alone. They essentially thrive on their own, as opposed to their counterparts: extroverts.

The key thing here for introverts is their ability to be comfortable AND thrive in their own company.

Secondly, what’s an artist? An artist is a creator! whether it be a painting or a business or a scientific theory. An artist is original in their thinking.

The benefits of being an introvert lie in their comfort being in solitude.

Benefits of solitude 

1.Increased efficiency: When you’re an introvert, you recharge by yourself. You’re like a car that doesn’t need to spend fuel in order to gain fuel. This makes you effectively more efficient than your counterparts and this helps you create because you will have more energy and time because you don’t need to go out to get your ‘fix’. This freed time and energy can be utilised for creating something!

2. less interfering energies. Energetically, everyone has an aura, a bubble of energy around them that interacts with everyone and everything in their proximity. (this is why nature is so therapeutic) When surrounded by lots of people, usually with incompatible/conflicting aura’s this can cause confusion in the aura. This confusion requires cleansing to return to homeostasis. When in homeostasis, you feel better and when you feel better, you’ll create better work.aura

Also, as an artist, there are only certain thoughts you can attract only if your energy is right. Thoughts are ideas. You can see why this is important for an artist.

3. As an introvert, since you’re alone quite a lot, you tend to be more unique, this is due to the fact that the more people that you hang around, the bigger the influence they will have on you. These relationships affect your opinions on matters too, so if you have less interfering influence, you’re more likely to have an original perspective! which is the currency of creativity.

The greatest spurts of creativity tend to be anti-cultural, perhaps even ahead of their time. These tend to come from an outsiders perspective, which is usually an introvert.

4.  The final reason is solitude itself! Sometimes you need to be alone to be inspired, some of my best ideas have come from journaling. That eureka! moment tends to come while on your own when distractions, energetically and otherwise, are as few as possible.

I’m not the only one who thinks this, Csikszentmihalyi, the author of flow, suggested that creative individuals tend to be strong on certain traits, such as introversion.

I’ll end this post with a few quotes on solitude.

“Isolation offers its own form of companionship”

“Children love to be alone because alone is where they know themselves, and where they dream”

“Isolation offers its own form of companionship”

“Solitude is the mother of creativity”

P.S some of humanity’s greatest artists have been serial introverts: Nikola Tesla, Albert Einstein, Charles Dicken, the list could go on…

Anyway, if you’re an introvert, utilise your advantage and create!

LESSONS LEARNED FROM SKATEBOARDING

Firstly, I’ll start off by saying I’m no expert at skating, not even close. I’m just a guy who’s been skating for nearly 3 years (at the time of this writing) I’ve learned a lot and through observation, I’ve noticed lessons that apply outside of skating too.

Some of these lessons can be obtained through other sports/hobbies. Some may be obvious, others not so. The key thing here is experience, I probably had an intellectual understanding of these lessons but: you can know something but until you experience it for yourself, you’ll laugh at the fact that you ever thought you knew it

Anyway, here’s the list:

1.Discipline: I skate when I’m tired, when it’s cold, when it’s raining, when I really don’t want to, when I’m injured, when I have a busy day, I skate every day because I find having discipline in one area leads to discipline in all areas. Discipline helps me to achieve my goals, not just in skating but in life too. Here’s a quick video on the importance of a hobby.

2.Patience: Sometimes it takes me months to learn a new trick, even if I practice every day. Sometimes it takes a few hours. I’ve realised as long as I keep practising, I’ll eventually learn that trick, no matter how terrible I may be at the start.

This applies to life, sometimes what you want takes longer than you thought it would, having patience allows you to wait without stressing out about it, thus your experience while waiting can be positive instead of stressful.

3.Mastery: Again, I’m not even remotely close to mastering skateboarding, but I know enough about the process of getting good at something. I know what it takes and I now have a huge respect for anyone that’s mastered anything. I’ve experienced first hand that mastery of anything does not come easy. But at the same time, I’ve realised it’s just practice and consistency. With enough of this, I believe I can master anything.

4. You Reap what you sow: The more I practice, the better I get, it’s really that simple. The more effort I put in, the bigger the reward. In life, whether it be studying or a task you need to learn, effort is usually correlated with progress. If you want to maximise your results, maximise your effort.

5. My work ethic:  The thing with skating, there’s no one telling you what to do. There’s no boss or teacher ordering you around. It’s all on you. I’ve learned when I commit I just don’t stop. I’ve had to start taking breaks when I skate to prevent injuries. I now know what commitment for me looks like, Therefore I can use this to gauge my level of commitment outside of skating.

6. How to learn faster: If you’re learning anything, it’s best to have as little distractions as possible. I used to wear headphones when I started skating but that only slowed down my progress. I’ve noticed focus is the best tool when learning. You may get away with a wayward attention if you’ve mastered the skill because your body can be on autopilot, but if you’re learning, it’s a recipe for disaster, believe me, I have the scars to prove it.

7. Persistence: Skating is 99% failing and 1% success. But I like to think each failure is just a redirection, each failure is actually a success when looked at this way. I’m no longer deterred by failure in anything, I know failing is just an indicator of what not to do. I now know if I keep pivoting and trying, I will eventually hit the jackpot.

8. To get better, level UP: I used to think if you want to get better at something, you have to keep repeating it until you master it. Wrong! From skating I’ve realised this is a slow way to learn. If you want to get better at level 3, practice level 5. It will force you to use the resources you didn’t even know you had and it will make level 3 look like a piece of cake. If you have 1 hour to do something, try and do it in 30 minutes. If you’re shy then go speak in front of large crowds. If you want to get better at lifting 30kg, lift 50kg, I think you get the idea.

9. Pivot: Stagnation is the opposite of happiness. If I carry on doing the same thing for too long, I start to hate skating and no I’m not exaggerating. So I’m usually learning a few tricks at a time, if I get bored of one then I just switch it up. This keeps things fresh and interesting in my mind and prevents me from burning out. This is true in life too, if you’re feeling burnt out, just do something else for a little while, when you come back you’ll be refreshed and more focussed than before.

10. My method: I’m not like most people who want to learn the flashiest tricks straight away. There’s nothing wrong with that but I have the opposite mindset. I like to build on the basics first, get a nice solid foundation if you will. I do this intuitively, I have a keen sense of knowing that your ability to do the complex rests on your ability to do the basics. This is true in life: have a solid foundation in anything that you start, whether it be a skill or relationships; without it, the structure won’t get very high or it will fall, if it tries.

11. My Personality: Skateboarding for me has been a tool for self-discovery. I’ve learned that I’m achievement oriented. My best moments when I skate are when I’m giving my all and when I learn something new. I quickly get bored if I stay at the same level for too long.

Skating for me is also an outlet; It’s a thing where I’m in total control of; no one slows me down or vice-versa. It’s all on me. I love the sense of freedom and independence skating grants me, but most of all, I love the unlimited growth it has. There is always something new to learn.

Learning about myself allows me to know what I like so I can make better choices. Now that I know my drug of choice, perhaps once this phase is over, I’ll pick a less painful way to get my fix. Which leads me to…

12. Pain tolerance: If I had to sum up skating in one word: pain. These days I’m usually rocking multiple forms of injuries from skating. Although I experience a lot of pain, I never suffer.

Life can be painful but suffering is a choice. I’ve experienced this first hand. When I experience acute pain, I just focus on it, I watch it in the third person. I notice the pain is there, but I notice I’m the noticer of the pain, not the pain itself; I’m separate from it. With this knowledge, I don’t become the pain, so I don’t suffer.

I know that I am awareness, and so are you.

In a way, I learn to enjoy it, it’s very stimulating and energising, although, I certainly won’t be inviting it to my party.

Knowing that you are not the pain but the watcher of it is life changing. In life, carrying this perspective all-ways can be difficult but it’s incredibly freeing and with practice, it’s certainly achievable.

13. Use it or lose it: If I don’t practice a trick, I get worse and worse at it. This gets less pronounced the more I’ve mastered the trick but If I’ve just learnt a trick and I don’t practice it enough; I will have to learn it again. This is true in life also, if you neglect things you will lose them; whether it be a skill or relationships, you have to nurture things in order to keep them.

14. Letting go: I used to have goals to learn x trick in x weeks. I noticed sometimes I would go waaaay over. I wanted to learn the kickflip in 3 weeks, it took me closer to 3 months;  sometimes it’s the opposite. I’ve realised it’s best to just let go of expectations and just do your best each session.

In life, you’re not really in control of your progress, but you are in control of your process.  Don’t focus on the goal, focus on your actions. If you do this, even if you fail, you won’t have regrets because you know you did your best.

Thenks 4 reeding bitchez, peace out xox

 

How Reading Makes you Smarter

I’ll define ‘smart’ in this context as the ability to comprehend incoming information.

There are 3 main ways I believe reading makes you smarter.

  1. Attaining new information
  2. Practising visualisation
  3. Stretching of the mind

#1 is quite obvious. If you have knowledge on the subject then you are more likely to understand something i.e you have knowledge of how to read English, hence why you can comprehend this sentence.

#2 is a bit more complicated. Visualisation is often the key to understanding concepts. Often you seem to finally understand something when you just ‘see’ it in your mind’s eye. This is a muscle that can be trained and it was used by Nikola Tesla to great effect.

Reading allows you to train this muscle, particularly if it’s a ‘story-type-book‘ where you can imagine the characters coming to life in your mind’s eye.

#3 is a little harder to explain. Basically, you have certain ways of thinking, a set system of how you articulate your thoughts and process information. This includes all your false knowings too which are not to be confused with beliefs.

Belief = I believe X will win.

Knowing = X won.

When you confront new sentence structures while reading, it literally trains your mind to process information in a new way.

It’s impossible to understand what you read while simultaneously carrying a false knowing. Either you aren’t going to understand or you’re going to let go of your false knowing and open your mind.

If you pick the latter, that false knowing is gone forever, meaning when you confront new information, that lie will no longer prevent you from understanding. Thereby making smarter.

Example of a false knowing:

Being told blue is red. See how this makes no sense? You can’t see or understand how this could be true. Because you know blue is blue. This knowing prevents you from seeing that blue is actually red.

Whether what you know is true or not is irrelevant. As long as you believe it, it’s your experience.

Letting go of the mind’s false knowings is the muscle’s equivalent of becoming more flexible.

Uncomfortable/hard poses, stretch the body. Uncomfortable/hard information stretches the mind.

The more you do this, the less rigid your mind becomes thus becoming more flexible, therefore the easier it will be to understand new information.

“The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never returns to its original dimensions.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Reading is key to this because the more you read, the more chances you get to expose your false knowings. Therefore the more chances you have to remove them.

 

The more different the material you’re reading is to your default thought pattern/vocabulary, the more of a stretch reading will be for you. The more you stretch the mind, the smarter you will get.

Read unfamiliar books/subjects/authors to achieve this.

Reading isn’t the only way to get smarter of course. If you don’t like reading but still want to get smarter then I’m sure you can come up with creative ways to gain new information, visualise and to stretch your mind!

I’ll finish this article with this reminder:

“Learning never exhausts the mind” – Leonardo Da Vinci

Thank you for reading!

Peace X

 

 

Stay in your Locus.

 

Things inside your locus are:

beliefs

 

thoughts

behaviour

interpretations

emotions

what you consume

how you react

 

 

Things outside your locus:

Weather

government

laws

other people

amongst many others

Yes, you could argue you have some modicum of control in the things I’ve placed outside your locus, but it’s exactly that, a modicum. It’s unreliable at best and at worst emotionally expensive on your part to try and control it.

How you react is by far the most powerful tool at your disposal. You have autonomy in how you choose to react to all the things I’ve placed outside your locus.

“No one can make you feel anything without your permission”

Choose to react in a way that serves you best. Hint: Complaining is the worst option (if peace/happiness is your goal that is)

If you focus on things you can control and let go of those you cannot, then you will be free from chronic negative emotions.

 

thank you for reading 🙂 x

Why not choose it? You chose this

You are a playing a character in your own movie. The script you’re going off is based on your beliefs as well as your desires.

Your current beliefs are based on the choices you made in the past, many of them before you could speak or rationalise while your brain was still in its early development.

Without getting into the nitty-gritty on the topic, here’s the gist:

During childhood, you have an egocentric point of view, you think your point of view is THE point of view and you think now means always thus you form a faulty template of how you expect others to treat you. For example, if you were stigmatised for speaking up, you may grow up to be shy about expressing yourself.

Furthermore, as your cognitive abilities were also in their early developmental phase, they were far from accurate. Coupled with the egocentric point of view, you often had skewed thoughts stemming from this. For example, say one of your parents was always working, you were more likely to interpret this as somehow your fault, thinking they don’t love you enough and thus grow up to have low self-esteem/worthiness issues.

The good news is you can change this. You can re-write your script.

The script (your beliefs) is a programme on your computer (body-mind) just like on a computer, a programme can be altered/deleted, the same is true for your body-mind.

To change your beliefs you have to change your behaviour. “It easier to act your way into a new type of thinking than to think your way into a new way of acting”

So you have to change your behaviour consciously in order to match the belief you’d like to have. Whatever you’d like to be… confident/rich/kind etc, imagine how that version of you would behave, then act it out!

This will be uncomfortable of course. The priority for you brain is to keep you safe, rather than to thrive. To your brain, anything familiar is the default setting for ‘safe’, no matter how maladaptive it may be because as long as you’re alive, its all good.

Therefore, any changes in behaviour introduces new and unfamiliar risks so your brain will initially reject it. However, life itself is risky, to be alive is to expose yourself to risk so do it anyway.

Actors do this, they embrace a new character with ease through tools such as method acting.

So can you!

If you behave and think in accordance to a certain belief for long enough, that will become your new belief. This is because thought pattern and behaviour are the only things that sustain a belief.

Before you say it’s being “fake” it’s no more fake than you’re being right now, the only difference is the length of time you’ve been doing it for.

If you had your current world view while in your childhood, you’d understand that how you were treated is not an indicator of your worth or how you will be treated in the future. You can choose that perspective now and stop behaving from your childhood perspective.

So whatever you’ve been putting off, the kind of person you’d like to be, don’t wait Start Now! Although it may be painful to change, regret is worse “if pain is acute, then regret is chronic”

You can choose to be the best version of yourself.

So why not choose it? You chose this.

Finding Your Purpose, how to know what to do

You came here with your purpose intact, you forgot it because we weren’t taught to create a connection with our inner-self. Schooling is a major culprit to this. You start off your schooling/indoctrination career at a particularly mind-malleable age. So you’re more vulnerable to be influenced. Then at 18, they expect you to know what you wanna do with your life when not long ago you had to ask for permission to go to the toilet?

In school, you learn to operate from the outside. You learn to react to the outside world not how to respond to it. You learn to regurgitate not create. The opposite of what your purpose requires.

Your purpose, your values, your truth, are all INSIDE. Therefore, to find and live your purpose, the goal is to operate from the inside

what does this mean?  The outside is societal/cultural pressure, peer/familial pressure etc. Operating from the inside is the opposite of what you’ve been taught. This means to live authentically, to live irrespective of what the world has said you should do.

To do this you have to create a gap where you can facilitate the connection from the inside, you have to close the outside door just for a while and I have 3 easy ways to begin that connection if you haven’t already

1.ISOLATION

This is crucial, without isolation you will never get away from the expectations of the outside world. Isolation allows for your truth to come through. Even an hour a day by yourself without tv will do wonders. Meditation and journaling are some of my favourite tools when alone.

Some questions for journaling

  • what emotions do I feel most often? What am I thinking/doing when they arise?
  • How do I feel around/in x? (people/place)
  • What was I good at in school?
  • What do I often get complimented for?
  • If I had all the money I need, what would I do?

These answers to these questions are very revealing, try them! Obviously, there are a lot more you can ask but you get the idea.

2. Follow your curiosity

Often insight comes through an idea, you may get a sudden interest in something you weren’t previously, this is your intuition, listen to it. This can lead you to new places/people etc which can lead to knowing which direction to take your life.

3.Consciously Change your environment.

Surrounding yourself with the same environment all the time can prevent something new from coming through. New people, books and places often come with new ideas/insight, this insight can again lead you to know which direction you want to take with your life.

Some life-changing books I highly recommend that have helped me…

 

Thank you for reading, have a great day and Know your purpose!